Thursday, February 20, 2014

Surviving the Long Days

Some days are long.  It's 10am and nap time is already over long.  Daddy has a work dinner and won't be home before bedtime long.  And then magically you have a 1 1/2 year old,  and you think that was the fastest 18 months of your life!  Parenthood is sneaky like that!

For those extra long days, it's good to step back for a moment and remember who you are.  Because between all the smiling, crying, giggling, & whining you can most certainly lose it!  I try to remind myself of the mom that I always want to be for Liam; I try to keep empathy in mind.  That's my secret, my mama "mantra" if you will... EMPATHY.

I regularly attend Nursing & Beyond (toddler) La Leche League meetings and this seems to be a word we are always coming back to.  At these meetings, I find myself surrounded by like minded mamas with similar parenting styles, whom all help me grow as a mother to my ever changing toddler.  I love it and always leave those meetings feeling rejuvenated as a mom!  At a recent meeting, one of the mom's gave us each a list of some daily reminders to keep in mind while parenting.  Especially when parenting through the more challenging days.  

And for my breastfeeding mamas: NURSE!
I love the concept of "mothering at the breast."  

I have this piece of paper pinned to my fridge and find myself looking it over frequently.  So quickly I can get caught up in moment and lose my patience...but just as quickly I can turn things around for Liam & I.  Yesterday was one of those dreaded long days for me.  Conor had meetings run late at work, so he wasn't able to make it home before a work dinner.  Days when I am completely flying solo, with no back up are always tough for me.  The witching hour was approaching, and I didn't have an ounce of energy left.  But Liam deserves better than my less than stellar self, and I was determined to end our day on a high!

So we grabbed a silly hat and headed outside into the windy & chilly weather for some fresh air. He shoveled the sprinkling of snow we received and loved every single flake, every single second!  I relaxed and watched my little boy in awe.  He is growing up much to fast!  As he grows, I love him more & more.  He is becoming something amazing!  I know he will do great things!



During that long (longggggggg) day, came beautiful memories.  
Parenthood...sneaky I tell you, SNEAKY! 

8 comments :

  1. Yes I can relate to those long days but oh how quickly the years go by! That list is so good and I will be keeping it in mind. Good idea getting outside! Fresh airs does wonders for us all. Winter is so tough!

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  2. Love this post, SO TRUE!!!!! Well said, mama! Glad you could find joy in your long day! :)

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  3. I feel ya! I feel more and more sorry for the tired version of myself my poor husband has to see each night! I was telling him last night how emotionally draining it is all day, give give give, it's hard at the end of the day!. Love the list, especially "know your triggers."
    -Lauren, www.southpearlliving.blogspot.com

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    1. So true about only having the tired version of ourselves come the evening! I try to nap when Liam does, and on those day I am 100% better!

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  4. I can relate. And then it takes that little moment and it all feel right again.

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  5. I love that list, what a outstanding idea to have it where you see it all the time. Sometimes you just need a little reminder like that to refocus. Or, maybe a lot of the time. I sure do.

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  6. I need to post that on my fridge! Some days, I am just *on,* you know? Nothing ruffles me. We could have a poopsplosion in my son's diaper followed by my daughter having an accident and then both start vomiting as I'm cleaning up their poo and somehow, I'm still like, "It's fine. I got this." Other days - Every. Little. Thing. pushes my buttons, and I'll find myself looking at the clock and groaning, "It's not even 8 AM, and already I am about to just lose it!!!" Those are the days I really need reminders like this - that it's sneaky, and if I get outside of myself and empathize, it's much easier to get through the rough days!

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  7. What a cute little boy! It's so cool that you have such a great support team from the La Leche league. I love the list and pinned it! As a mom, we try so hard to be and do everything we sometimes forget to take care of ourselves too. Glad you were able to turn things around.

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