It may not always show on my blog, but I am a very natural minded parent. I'm hippie or crunchy or whatever you want to call it. Some people are really surprised by this, while others who know me closely know that's just "me." And since living in Salt Lake City, I've met an amazing group of women/mamas who are so similar in their lifestyle choices as well as parenting philosophies. It has been such an amazing addition to my life!
It has been especially impactful as I prepare for a natural birth. They not only understand why it's important to me, but have been able to offer me a wealth of support. Going into this pregnancy, I didn't have near the confidence I do now about having the birth experience that I want. These women have all shared their birth stories and encouraged me each day as I get closer & closer to delivery!
And then came the biggest, sweetest surprise! We all planned a little brunch together a few weeks ago, which was our first get together without the toddlers! An exciting day! But little did I know that they all had actually planned a Blessingway for me! A Blessingway (or sometimes called a mother's blessing) is an old navajo tradition where you celebrate the mother-to-be. Stories are shared, fears are let go of, and confidence & strength are instilled. It empowers the mother for her journey through birthing & motherhood. This gathering was such an amazing & impactful experience for me. I felt completely supported & loved.
Each Blessingway is unique, but I'll share a few of the details from mine! First, my friend Celka made us all bracelets with different stones & meaning.. Coral is about bringing new life into the world. Hematite is a heading stone. Red jasper brings you strength. Lapis lazuli is for protection. Red tiger eye is for the vision to see things through to the end. Turquoise is for having wisdom. We all have been wearing our "baby Finn" bracelets since the Blessingway, and they will not be removed until he is born. It is a lovely reminder of the support I have; I smile each time I see the same bracelet upon my friends' wrists!
Next, my friend Gretchen gave everyone a candle which we will all light once I go into labor. I find much comfort in the thought that each of them will have a candle lit for me while I journey through Finn's birth. I can't wait to send that text to let them know labor has begun! Also, my friend Sarah made a CD with a few songs to help me prepare for & assist during labor. Everything was so thoughtful!
And lastly, they all wrote down their favorite birth affirmations and put them in an envelope for me to read only once labor begins! I know their words of encouragement will be such a huge support for me. I can't wait to read the different affirmations they have written down! These women make up my mama tribe! They make me a better woman, but more importantly a better mother. We are not competitive, but instead build one another up and support each other through some of our parenting struggles. I cannot imagine my or Liam's life without them!
(the only picture we took that day)
So as I get ready to give birth, my doula had me create a "sacred space" in my house where I can go to relax, think, & prepare. Here hangs a banner of birth affirmations from my doula as well as a few of the gifts from my Blessingway. All of these things will help to aid me through childbirth. While I love my mama tribe, they unfortunately will not physically be with me through labor. Instead my doula will be that extra support. Both Conor & I have developed a strong relationship with her and are incredibly grateful to have her. I am truly looking forward to this experience!
My body is capable and strong.
My baby knows how to be born.
I am so ready to meet Finn,
but I know that he will come in perfect timing when he is ready.