Sunday, November 15, 2015

My THREE Year Old

We are now three plus months into this whole three-nager thing, and it is tough!  It has completely caught me off guard.  I feel like we are on one emotional roller coaster.  One minute I think that three must certainly be the best age ever.  I'm watching Liam transition into this older boy who is funny & loving.  Our conversations are deeper and more meaningful.  We have these incredible moments together that I never want to end.  I feel like there is no possible way that I could love him more!!!


And then that moment will quickly fade, and this new boy arrives.  He is sassy.  He has an attitude.  And he is completely unreasonable.  Liam has gotten smarter and can talk his way out of things...or at least try.  He can bargain.  And he could not possibly care less about what I have to say.  If I had to choose just one word that describes three, it would be impulsive.  Always impulsive, all the time.  And many of my questions are simply answered with "just because."  That response is infuriating when I am trying to understand this little three year old of mine!


I feel like three has been a bigger shock to us because Liam was just the easiest baby & young toddler.  You all have heard me describe him as so sweet & gentle.  And of course, that is still who he really is.  However, he is experimenting with all sorts of emotions & behaviors.  He is unpredictable!  I think what has been most difficult for me, is that I feel a bit of disconnect with him at times.  The two of us are close, ridiculously close.  I know him as well as I know myself, perhaps better.  We have this crazy tight bond.  We have always been in sync with one another.  But there are days when I do not feel that way.  When I do not understand him at all.  Yet, I glimpses of memories from when I was three.  I can remember the big emotions.  I can remember crying so hard and furiously, but then not remembering why I was even upset to begin with.  Three is tough for everyone.  Tough for Mama & tough for the wee one!


But as with all things, this too is a phase.  He is still my sweet & gentle boy.  He still has an infectious smile and a gleeful laugh.  We are as close as close can be.  I know that not far off a day will come when I will yearn for the toddler years to be back.  I will miss the irrational behavior and the snuggles that surely follow.  I will miss the backtalk that leaves me laughing hysterically on the inside, while I keep a stern face on the outside.  These days are not to wish away, but to be enjoyed in some possible way. 

To all the mamas with three year olds:  you are not alone!  Four will come around eventually!

12 comments :

  1. Noah just turned three but I can totally relate! Like Liam, I would describe Noah as sweet and kind and we have a super close relationship as well. I am starting to see Noah test limits and act impulsively as well. Most of the time I can see an outside cause, it doesn't make the reacting behavior correct. Just this weekend, we were having a tickle fight (which Noah loves and asks for). But after saying to stop once, he then slapped Chris. While I understand that he probably felt he wasn't being heard or understood, hitting is never the answer. So we had to have a conversation that daddy needs to listen to Noah if he says to stop and Noah cannot hit. The most annoying difference in Noah right now is ignoring my instructions completely... Either by not acknowledging me at all or looking at me, smiling, and doing the opposite. I'm sure it's the same with Liam... I remind myself all the time that while this is strange behavior for Noah, it's not for his age. When I see how other kids his age (like his cousin) act, I consider myself extremely lucky! We've just been blessed with easy children so far! Good luck!!!

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  2. OH my goodness, he is sooooooo handsome. Such a big boy!

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  3. I totally could have written this! Impulsive is the best word....I never know what Cam will do next. Will he be sweet? Will he jump on Chad? Will he climb over the back of the couch, even though I'm telling him no? UGH....I love how "independent" he's become, but I could do without the talking back, saying no and ignoring! Hang in there, momma!

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  4. Oh girl, I could've written so much of this post... and Abbie doesn't even turn three until next month! The sass is out of control sometimes! So many big feelings, and opinions... and they all seem to come out at the WORST times, like when I'm trying to get out the door for daycare/work! I know it's going to be a tough year and hopefully we'll all make it out the other side!

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  5. Ha, this was actually my year of four. Three was good but four kicked my butttttttt. I'm not sure how much was four and how much was new baby? But either way it has been so rough. I've felt the same way, so in sync with her and like I know her better than myself and then out of nowhere I feel like I don't know her at all anymore. It's been hard! So yeah. I resonate with this.

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  6. He's gonna be a little heartbreaker with those blue eyes and that blond hair! :) And yes, just a stage. Unfortunately ours started early...the two's were rough and now we are going through another little spell of it all again. But you are not alone!

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  7. Oh, yes yes yes. Good thing he is SO. DANG. HANDSOME. ;)
    So much attitude and 'personality' out of nowhere some days, huh?! Thank you for sharing as always. I've been practicing my patience more than I ever thought possible. I am often just confused at where in the world this is all coming from..?! How did he learn to say THAT..?! Also trying to keep a straight face at some of the antics.. Some days I'm better at that than others. :) But sometimes, a giggle can help turn the moment of protesting into a silly moment and proceed on TOGETHER.

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  8. First of all, Liam looks like he is about 16 in these pictures!!!
    I can sooooooo "get" this post. Lily has been basically driving me batty lately. She is THE absolute sweetest, most thoughtful, & hilarious little girl. Then out of nowhere she is a little diva with a snotty little attitude. She is purposely defiant with a little smirk and attitude to top it off. It's so hard because some days I feel like all I am doing is getting on to her and that makes me sad.
    Btw, I need your tips for laughing on the inside but being stern on the outside. Lily makes me laugh with that little snarky attitude. I really don't want to encourage her by laughing but part of me finds it so comical that she is being so ridiculous and then the other part of me is just so uncomfortable thinking about what it will be like at 16 if we don't get this little diva under control. ha! I know it is just a phase.

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  9. Oh, welcome to my life. If we make it to four I'm having a HUGE party! Three might kill us all. And we didn't have the benefit of having a sweet easy baby or toddler...it's just gotten harder and harder. Hahaha! Ugh.

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  10. Oh mama, I'm sorry. He looks like the sweetest, happiest boy in these pictures! I'm sure it's coming for us but both two and three have been relatively easy. Sure we have our other fair share of challenges, like the communication issue, which definitely causes problems sometimes when he can't tell me what he needs.... frustration on both our parts. I try to ask him to show me what he needs but his new thing is yelling "that that that that" and I have NO clue what he wants. I think these sweet three year olds are just learning about emotions and everything and have a hard time controlling them sometimes.

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  11. I can imagine how trying this phase would be! Sounds like you have a great attitude about it- hang in there!

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  12. He looks so mature in these photos! So handsome. It's nice to get a glimpse into the future a bit too :)

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