Sunday, March 13, 2016

When Your Baby Goes to the ER

I have been off the map.  And with no real fun or good news to report back with.  The last three weeks have been a bit of a disaster, and I am just now getting our family & house back in order.  The boys were both so sick for a good two weeks, and then we had to travel to Montana as Conor's grandpa passed away.  It's been a rough month for our family.  So now it's time to play a little catch up.  You may have thought you were done reading posts about my sick kids, but I'm going to squeeze one more in.  Because Finn took a trip to the ER, and it was the saddest thing ever.  And since this is my journal of sorts, I want to remember the emotions and chaos that came with this time.

When Conor left for his business trip on that Tuesday night, I thought I would be okay.  I had hoped that maybe we would have another day or two of snuggles, movies, & naps and that eventually we would be ready to venture outside and see friends to pass the long days while Daddy was away.  Well that night, Finn took a turn for the worst.  He really seemed to be struggling to breathe; I was overly worried and at a loss as to what to do.  I took a video of Finn sleeping and sent it to a friend, asking what she thought about Finn's breathing.  I was hoping to be reassured that he was fine, I was over-reacting, etc.  Her response: "Okay, that sounds super labored.  I'd try to get in to the doctor.  That doesn't sound good..."  And then the freakout began.

My mama gut told me to take Finn to the ER that night, but waking a toddler and doing that all alone sounded scary and impossible.  Instead, I watched Finn sleep all night.  I worried.  I cried.  And I counted down the minutes until our pediatrician's office opened in the morning.  I wanted to talk with our doctor first; I didn't want to be irrational.  I told Conor what was going on, and that I may need him to fly home.  We agreed to wait until I talked with the doctor.  When Finn woke up, he puked a ton.  Everything he had eaten.  At this point in his sickness, he was throwing up all meds and about 2/3 feedings.  It was so difficult to see him so ill.  8am ever so slowly rolled around, and I finally got in touch with a nurse.  She asked me tons of questions, one of which was whether or not Finn's neck & ribcage were retracting.  I didn't even know to look for that!  Well they were, and once I noticed it, it was super scary.  His poor body was trying so hard to breathe.  The nurse told me I needed to go to the ER right away.  I started bawling on the phone with her.  I told her how we have no family near us, and that my husband was away on business, and that I also have a toddler.  It was all so overwhelming to handle alone.  Oh it was!

When in triage, they put a hospital bracelet on Finn's ankle, and I completely broke down.  Then they used the tiniest blood pressure cuff I have ever seen, and my heart kept breaking.  No baby so young should be so sick!  We were quickly placed in a room, where I could snuggle Finn and attempt to keep Liam entertained.  The ER staff was wonderful.  They kept us comfortable and even brought Liam a coloring book.  It was so tough to manage both boys on my own, especially with how much care Finn needed.  While we don't have any family living nearby us, we do some particularly wonderful friends.  I had been in touch with a few, and one of them offered to come pick up Liam.  I knew it would possibly be a long day in the ER, so this was such a help to me.  Not only did she come get Liam, but she arrived with Starbucks coffee & sandwiches!!!  Our family is lucky to have such wonderful people in our lives!



Finn was diagnosed with Bronchiolitis.  I had never heard of this before, but apparently it has affected tons of babies in Utah this winter!  They suctioned Finn out (no fun to watch or assist with) and treated his fever.  For the next few hours we were mostly just under observation.  I had been in touch with Conor nonstop...  I really wanted him home, but also knew how important his business trip was.  We were waiting to make the final decision on whether or not Finn would be admitted to the hospital.  But the waiting was difficult on all of us, so Conor caught the first flight home that he could.  Such a weight was lifted once I knew that I would have his help.  Both our boys needed us, and I was not able to provide for them both on my own.


Finn responded well to the bronchial treatment, so our doctor was comfortable sending us home later that afternoon.  He emphasized that Finn would most likely need more bronchial treatments (essentially being suctioned out), but that we could bring him in when that was necessary.  It was ecstatic about not having to stay in the hospital.  I just wanted my baby home & healthy.  Conor was already home by the time we left the ER; it has never felt so good to all be together!!!  Finn did need another treatment that night before bed, but that would be his last!  His was a strong boy, who was fighting the illness as hard as he could!

The next week was a blur.  My boys were the sickest & saddest I have ever seen them.  Liam ran a high fever for 8 straight days.  Broke out in hives.  And took 3 separate trips to the doctor himself.  Finn continued to puke up most of his feedings.  The laundry was piling up.  The sleep practically nonexistent.  But oh there were endless amounts of snuggles.  It was a challenging week for us all!  I have never been so happy to have such a partner in parenthood.  Conor stayed home from work until we thought I could care for them both.  He handled half the night wakings.  The medicine giving.  The tear wiping.  And the bath giving.



It was hard being inside for so many days straight, especially once they boys had just a bit of their energy back.  We read every book in the house.  We watched far more Daniel Tiger than anyone should in one week (but let's be honest...I LOVE Daniel Tiger!).  And we made up crazy games involving the humidifier.  And just once we snuck out of the house for some Swig sugar cookies, because sometimes a treat is in order so that everyone doesn't go crazy.   It was a trying time for all.


And now here we are, nearly halfway through March, and finally (FINALLY) the boys are healthy!  I hope to not see our pediatrician for many many months (even though he is smokin' hot!).  I hope to not use a boogie wipe or a bulb syringe.  And I really really hope that Finn doesn't puke all over me for at least a year.  Better days are ahead.  I just know it!

28 comments :

  1. First I'm so so happy to hear the boys are healthy. Second reading this post made me tear up. Holy crap that's so scary. Thank the lord everything is okay and spring is almost here.

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  2. So sorry to hear this, Laura. So, so scary! Glad to hear they are on the mend! Feel better all!

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  3. Reading this post put a lump in my throat and made me tear right up. I had almost an identical experience back in October with my then 10 month old little guy and it was terrifying. The scary breathing, high fevers, throwing up all the feedings, the ER visit...the only difference was we walked away with a pneumonia diagnosis and nebulizer instead of the suctioning. That sounds horrible! I'm so glad both your boys are feeling better now and hopefully with Spring around the corner we can say goodbye to these winter sicknesses!

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    1. Oh I feel for you! Such a hard thing to go through. Let's hope next winter is gentler on our babies!

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  4. I know that's scary. We had an ER trip August when N was a month old. It's definitely a terrifying experience and I'm glad he's ok. Finn's diagnosis, along with RSV have been pretty prevalent around here as well. I hope everyone reaches 100% soon!

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  5. Oh sweet dear friend, my heart hurt for your poor family. I'm so sorry sweet Finn was so sick and you had to deal with that all alone in the beginning. So wonderful Conor was able to make it home to help, I can only imagine WHAT a relief that must have been. Glad you had such wonderful friends to help and that the staff was so accommodating to you all.

    So happy everyone is feeling better, <3 to you!

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  6. oh girl, so sorry everyone was so sick and you had so much to deal with. I was home alone with both girls sick last week and it was just a cold; i couldn't imagine both kids being more sick than that. Friends really are amazing aren't they?!?! Sounds like you have a keeper there for sure!

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  7. Oh Laura, what a rough patch. March came in like an lion. I'm so sorry you all - especially those poor littles - went through all that! Seeing your babies sick is the absolute worst.
    It's so good to hear everyone is well. Here's to March going out like a lamb!

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  8. I just want to say my heart goes out to you and your boys! I hope that they get better soon! That's so tough especially since Conor wasn't there for some of it. I hope Finn's treatments are as easy as they were the first time.

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  9. Oh poor little Finn! Bronchitis is no joke!! That must have been scary, and I totally know how you feel with no family in town when stuff like that happens, it's almost a panicky feeling. Adam used to go away for a week at a time about once a month and it was the worst feeling ever if Scarlett would get sick... he stopped going before Bodhi arrived (thank goodness!). Glad everyone is on the mend!! XO

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  10. That is so scary! So glad Conor was able to get the next flight out. Poor thing!! I feel bad for the babies but I feel worse for mama!! xoxo

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  11. How scary this all must have been! I am so happy everyone is well again!! Did you ever find out why Liam got hives? Poor boys and poor mama!!

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    1. The doctor said it was all a part of the virus... Especially after so many days of a fever. It was freaky though!

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  12. Well I'm glad to hear you are through the thick of it and back to a healthy house. But oh man does all that sound horrible! Taking a child to the ER is hard enough, then add an older child to the mix, a husband out of town, and no family nearby. Thank goodness for good friends. You deserve a medal... Or a weekend away ;)

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  13. Ohh my Laura! This made me tear up. You are right that no baby should have to be so sick. It is so hard watching your baby suffer, plus having two to handle at the same time! Sending healing and prayers your way to continue to stay healthy. Also so sorry to hear about your husband's Grandpa.

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  14. I'm so glad to hear the boys are getting back to normal! Hopefully there's some extra sleep in your future.

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  15. Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry to hear about the constant sickness and the passing of Conor's grandfather. What an awful few weeks! So glad to hear that everyone is healthy again. The feeling of helplessness when your babies are sick is the worst thing ever.

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  16. Oh my gosh, what a hard few weeks! I can't even imagine how sad it was to be in the hospital with Finn! So glad they're finally feeling better and so sorry for the loss of Conor's grandpa. Hopefully the next few weeks are filled with all kinds of sunshine. <3

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  17. Crying myself reading this. You are a good, good mama. You truly are. I can always feel your heart for your babies through your writing! xx

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  18. This breaks my heart Im so sorry you had to go it alone during the worst of it. So glad everyone is feeling better!

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  19. Ugh...my heart just broke for you reading this. Taking your baby to the ER is definitely so scary and I can't imagine having to do it on your own. SO so glad the boys are doing better!!

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  20. Oh man. :( And never have you been SO THANKFUL for your health, I'm sure. What a tough time, glad everyone is on the mend!!

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  21. Oh my, I can't imagine how heartbreaking it must have been to see your child so sick. I'm so glad that your boys are back to their healthy selves and you're able to get out of the house! I know how rough it can be to be cooped up for that many days, not fun!

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  22. :( Poor guys! And poor you for having to deal with this while Conor was out of town, that had to be so scary. Glad to hear you're all starting to feel better though and let's hope flu season is behind us!!

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  23. Oh goodness!!! Just reading this breaks my heart. Thankfully Mason has never been that sick (knock on wood) but we did have to take him to the ER once for a head injury (he was fine) and we did take him to the hospital for his tube surgery and each time, my heart broke just knowing something was happening to my baby. SO GLAD that they are both happy and healthy once again!

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  24. Oh you poor momma!!! I'm so sorry about all of this, but so grateful your boys are doing better now. Sending you all lots of love!

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  25. Oh my dear! I can't even imagine how raw your emotions were being so vulnerable while Conor was away on business! So glad everyone seems to be doing much better now! Hopefully with the weather warming up soon, this was the last of the winter germs for ya'll!!! Big hugs to everyone!!!!!!!

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  26. Oh my, my heart breaks for you and your sweet boys! I hope this is the last of any sickness or trips to the doctor for you guys, you deserve a relaxing few months! Xo, Stephanie

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